Discussion Questions

Terri Coley shared about the behaviors they saw in one of their adopted children, including lying and stealing. These types of behaviors are common in kids who have learned to adapt and survive however they can. Before we can change how we treat others, we need to be honest with where we are. How do these behaviors affect you? Are you able to look past them to the need, or do you often struggle with frustration?
Mrs. Coley also says, had they known then what they know now, they would have done a lot of things differently. Think about a time when you handled a behavior or a need differently than you would handle it now. Share what you did then, and what you would do now.
Dan Coley talks about two light bulb moments for him, when he began to understand the long-lasting impacts of trauma on kids from hard places. Share a lightbulb moment for you, when you started to see things differently.
Mr. Coley explained how he came to understand that implicit memories were impacting the way he did relationships. How have you grown in your ability to connect with people as a result of revisiting some of your implicit memories?